What Would You Do: He’s Dying
This can be a very sensitive topic but I thought it’s best that we all still talk about it because it’s important.
What would you do if the person you’re dating was diagnosed to have terminal sickness?
I’m quite certain that it won’t be an easy answer.
But have you guys thought about it? What if you find yourself in that kind of situation? How will you deal with it? Will you stay? Why will you stay? Is it because it’s the noble thing to do? Aren’t you afraid that you won’t be strong enough to deal with death?
“Dating should be fun!” Some would adamantly claim, “I’m too young to go through that sort of thing!” Or, “we’re not married, let his/her family deal with that.” Heartless, I know. But faced with that sort of thing will let humanity take its natural course.
Then again, there’s love. Love can endure practically anything. It’ll fuel you through adversity.
So, what would you do?
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2 opinions for What Would You Do: He’s Dying
Ray
Oct 30, 2007 at 7:04 pm
[Sasha - you’ve got a knack for bringing up all these thought-provoking questions :P (i’m just wondering how/where you get these questions from) :D]
If faced with that situation - the choice (in my opinion) should be quite obvious: I would stay.
I say this, not because it’s the noble or decent thing to do, nor should it be a moral obligation/compulsion. Sure these things may add to our decision to stay - but the overriding factor that causes us to stay is love.
If you truly love that person, you’ll want to be with that person and cherish every moment you still have together. Even though you might not grow old with them, even though the fear and pain will be unbearable, even though their (eventual) death will devastate you, even though all these things may happen - love will be the reason why you stay.
Here’s one of my favourite quotes that kinda sums it all up:
“Love is everything it’s cracked up to be. That’s why people are so cynical about it. It really is worth fighting for, being brave for, risking everything for. And the trouble is, if you don’t risk anything, you risk even more.” - Erica Jong
Gayla McCord
Oct 31, 2007 at 5:57 am
This is a tough one. If in a “dating” relationship, many people who would find themselves with a terminal disease or illness would push those closest to them away.
There was a time that I went through some serious illness issues - turned out to be Ebstein Barr Virus, but for several months, it went undiagnosed. I pushed everyone away.
It was easier for me to deal with my issue by myself with close friends then to have to worry about being in a love relationship.
This one is mostly on the shoulders of the one who is ill. How close will they let you remain?
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