Will you trust him with your money?
Interesting question, really.
I’m trying to settle on an answer as I write this. Hehe. Well, one thing you have to know about me is I’m not stingy, esp with people close to me. And even my mum complains on my spending habits, er, even when I hardly spend any sometimes. LOL. But here comes your partner, somewhat, establishing an access to your personal funds. Will you trust him with it? Will you actually allow him to pick up your wallet ever so freely and take out several bills from time to time? Will you let him keep a portion of your money for safe-keeping or give him access to your debit card?
Money is such a huge deal. A lot of couples (married or not) argue about it — fight over it or, worse, break up because of it.
How do you go about this sort of thing? Any ideas?
Personally, all I know is that the first step is trusting the other person with it and deal with the rest after you can truly say that you do.
What about you? What do you think?
Note: This goes both ways. Guys trusting their girlfriends and women trusting their boyfriends. You get the picture. ;)
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3 opinions for Will you trust him with your money?
Ray
Jun 14, 2007 at 4:22 am
Well, trust’s a funny thing - i takes years and years to be built up - but it be lost in an instant.
Personally, i would trust the other person.
If you truly are in love with someone, your trust in them shouldn’t discriminate between aspects (financial, personal, work, etc…) in your life.
What i’m trying to say is, if you can trust someone with your life or to remain faithful to you - trusting someone with money seems trivial in comparison.
Anyways, that’s just my two cents.
Ray :)
Isabella
Jun 14, 2007 at 7:48 am
There is no way I would give a man access to my funds. Think if he was a drinker? or a gambler?
Ronnie
Jul 16, 2007 at 8:16 pm
Ray, I agree with you. Now the big question for me is, will she, (my girlfriend) trust me? Or, does she love me enough to marry me? We have been steadily dating now for 15 months, and are seriously talking about marriage. Yesterday this same topic came up in our discussion. If we get married, she wants me to sign a prenuptual agreement, and for us to have separate checking accounts. This request really concerns me, because I am very trustworthy, and she knows that and admits to it, even so far as to giving me a key and alarm code to her house, even though we do not live together. I believe when two people marry they become one and should have no fear of sharing everything together, including their assets! She makes twice as much income as I do, but I thought she trusted me enough to know, that I’m not out to get her money, only her love.
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