Will you date an average joe?
Personally, I think there’s nothing wrong in dating the average joe.
I’ve been thinking about social classes the past few weeks and how it affects an individual’s choice for a mate. Some might not be willing to admit it but it’s almost as good as fact — it does have some weight to one’s decision.
Who is the average joe?
Is he someone who’s not spectacular? Is he someone who isn’t handsome or built like a god? Does he fall under the geek, nerd or dork category? Is he someone who isn’t earning enough? Or is he simply someone who isn’t part of a certain social class, which you think you belong to?
Sometimes, I wonder about how most women view themselves. Are we really superficial? Do we see ourselves higher than we ought? Are we driven by vain conceit?
Perhaps — the question we really ought to be asking is — who am I?
I reckon I’m rambling because my thoughts are still just made up of questions about this matter. I’m hoping to find some sort of sense in the end. However, I guess that’s probably why I think that an average joe IS as a good choice for a mate as the commercialised Mr. Right. I even think that they’re the bunch that has something REAL to offer to any woman.
For now, it’s best to leave you with these thoughts and a promise that I’ll come back with follow up posts on this topic. If you can let me know your own thoughts on the matter, that’d be great. Feel free to leave a comment or send me an email over at sasha [at] b5media [dot] com.
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7 opinions for Will you date an average joe?
Darren
Dec 3, 2006 at 6:18 pm
nice post Sasha
“Perhaps — the question we really ought to be asking is — who am I?”
great question to ask and something I started doing instead of asking ‘what is SHE like?’ in my mid 20’s. I discovered in putting the spotlight on myself instead of prospective partners that I found myself ‘improving’ (wrong word) and in some strange way noticed girls starting to take notice of me that I’d always thought were ‘out of my league’.
It was a bizarre discovery - the less I focussed upon girls and the more I worked on me the better I seemed to do….
hmmm - I’m rambling :-)
Sasha Manuel
Dec 4, 2006 at 8:41 am
Rambling or not, it made sense to me. :)
I reckon if you work on becoming Mr. or Miss Right for your future mate, the chances of you finding him or her will be higher. The union will be *just right*, completely dropping off all pre-conceived notions on who you’ll end up with.
Thanks for sharing that, Darren. :)
Gayla McCord
Dec 5, 2006 at 6:23 am
I spent a great deal of time dating just for “fun” and for the right to say “I did it all” - having dated well known sports and music figures, etc.
In the end, I wanted a simple life! One with my own “average Joe” of sorts.
I didn’t like the limelight lifestyle enough to live it for the rest of my life - but it was an experience nonetheless.
I’ll be honest, I feel so SORRY for women who are married to or dating the “commercialized Mr. Rights” it’s really no way to live.
Paul
Dec 6, 2006 at 12:22 am
What about the ‘wow’ factor? I’m not talking about rock stars, just the normal (above average) people we run into sometimes that make us go “wow, that person is something else”. That’s what the average Joe/Jane doesn’t have.
It’s worth something years down the road I think. To think to yourself “Wow, this person I’m with is really something.” It’s also a kind of insurance against losing interest in them, and insurance to motivate keeping the relationship alive.
Sasha Manuel
Dec 7, 2006 at 2:43 am
It is quite silly if women stay blinded to the flaws of these men. That’s not to say we’re perfect. It’s just that I know they’re all sparkly and gorgeous but if you think about the foundation of your relationship, you can’t help but ask — “Am I with him for all the right reasons?”
It’s better to have your happiness founded on the lasting kind of relationship even when it with a guy who’s not the type that girls drool over.
A fantasy should just stay a fantasy, I guess.
Sasha Manuel
Dec 7, 2006 at 3:16 am
Paul, in my opinion, even an average joe/jane has that “wow” factor. I guess, it’s pretty subjective so it will depend entirely on the person, don’t you agree? Though, I may agree with you in terms of wanting that in the person I’ll be spending the rest of my life with but to let my choices be dictated upon by what society says is “above average” [this is what I meant by 'commercialised']is something I can’t live with.
Ever wondered that what YOU consider ‘above average’ can just be ‘average’ for the rest?
Paul
Dec 7, 2006 at 12:21 pm
Yes, Sasha, I agree completely. The ‘wow’ is personal. Society’s wow (or beauty or whatever) is irrelevant.
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