Three myths of compatibility
Myth #1: Similar people are more compatible
There is no evidence that very similar couples are more likely to have lasting, loving relationships, with one exception. If you have very traditional ideas about marriage, family, and gender roles, research suggests you’ll probably be more satisfied with a partner who shares these beliefs.
Myth #2: Compatible couples enjoy each other’s company and don’t fight
All couples have fights. They typically fight about the same things too: money, kids, and sex. Contrary to what most self-help books will tell you, many very happy couples fight all the time.
Myth #3: You can tell within the first few dates if your date is compatible
The article that discusses these three myths brings up some interesting points on “initial attraction” and “chemistry” - I can certainly understand there are times when it may take several months or even years for a couple to know whether or not they are compatible, but for me, I’ve always been able to tell right away whether the relationship was even worth pursuing.
I’ll give them the first two myths, but as for number three, I’m holding out that people DO know, oftentimes, in the first date or two if they are going to be seeing a third, forth or tenth date.
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2 opinions for Three myths of compatibility
Kristen King
Jan 6, 2007 at 12:53 pm
My husband and I have absolutely nothing in common. We don’t enjoy the same music or movies, we have no common interests, and educational and family backgrounds are quite different. But we knew within the first four hours of meeting that it was a forever kind of thing. And now, we’ve been married almost 2 and a half years and have been together for 4.
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christina
Feb 26, 2007 at 1:53 am
Well, I just in the stage to decided of weather to leave him or stay with him. We are actually a lot in common. We like same movie and music etc. But there still a big difference in personality. As I am eager to do things, and he is very slow. It never been so easy to see the real truth.
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