The You & Me Against the World Couple
Sounds like a song, eh? Oh, don’t worry. I won’t belt out. I wouldn’t want to lose a lung. Not that I can ever belt anyway. Hehe.
It just got me to thinking about certain couple behaviours, which somewhat takes on the mantra, “you and me against the world” sort of thinking, “tag team”, or the “romeo & juliet” sickness. Gawd. What drama. Heh.
I’m not saying that it’s all bad. I do acknowledge that once you do end up in relationship, your loyalties will be with your partner. The two of you will be “partners in crime”, “two peas in a pod”, or simply put, the two of you are a team. Quite understandable, really. I’ve encountered and experienced thoughts and emotions somewhat similar to this in the past. It’s been both good and bad for each individual and the relationship. But I still do hold on to the belief that my partner and I are one solid unit. Although, it’s not as extreme as it used to be.
If we are to talk about the sort of countenance that certain couples have, you can follow their line of thinking and it would go a little something like: “They’re just jealous of what we have,” “We’re misunderstood,” “Why can’t these people see and accept that we’re happy?” “Why can’t they just be happy for us?” And, yea, this couple may also think that there are people out to get them and destroy their relationship (paranoid much?). AND no one else matters but the two of them. That there are people out there who are trying to break up the relationship, to separate them. If you don’t approve of their relationship, ties will be severed and your friendship with them will be questioned. Dear me. Even if it was true, why dwell on such thoughts? Personally, I wouldn’t want to waste time nor energy, the same time and energy that I can actually offer to my partner instead.
I would appreciate that my partner will remain loyal to me. That he will by my number one ally when I’m caught in a bind. But I can’t imagine spending every day of your life with this partner, thinking and talking about the people who are trying to ruin things.
I also believe that there is enough room for other people and things. Keep a confidante. Spend some time with our respective families and friends. I just feel that a relationship should have that sort of space for such things. It just won’t be a “you and I” thingie all throughout the relationship. The couple should strike a balance, factor in other elements, i.e. friends, family, activities/hobbies, a dog, etc. I believe that these things matter if the couple wants to have a progressive relationship.
I can’t speak for the rest of you but this is my personal opinion. Perhaps you guys have insights to share about the matter? Have you experienced, witnessed or heard of couples who have the “you and me against the world” kind of thing going on? Is this something that all couples go through or do you find it odd that there are couples who are like these? If you were given the chance, what would YOU advise to them do?
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