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The Right Moment

by Sasha Manuel on May 10th, 2006

I was talking to a guy [who will remain anonymous] the other night about love and the right moment. It was full of fun, laughter and underlying concern for each other. [Quit thinking whatever that is your thinking — it’s nothing like that. Heh.]

Anyway, his main concern about the matter is his being uncertain about crushing on some girl, which causes him to feel torn between acting on it or not. It has its positive and negative sides to it, you see.

One thing I have to establish first is that in my country, there are still men who believe in courtship – the traditional and conservative kind. And this guy I was talking to is one of those men and he’s a christian, too.

I reckon he knows that there’s a difference between having a crush and actually falling for someone. He’s the type who would go into a relationship for the long haul. Yes. He’s one of the good ones. Lucky girl. Hmpft.

One of his concerns is if he acts on it even in the slightest way, the girl will discover how he feels about her. I asked him, what’s wrong with that? So what if she finds out? What’s the big deal? I went on “educating” him about how backward everything is and he should just go and not give a damn about her finding out. I mean, that is the whole point, right? Letting her know how you feel? I was really feeling so high and mighty at that moment. Ha.

And then after I finished my lengthy sermon, Blah Blah Blah, he said: “But I’m not sure yet.” Heh. WTF was he talking about? He explained it to me in such a simple way that I wanted to kick myself after. “I’m not sure if my feelings for her is the real thing so if I try to befriend her she will eventually find out how I feel about her then we both might face the possibility of falling for each other. What if it doesn’t work out?” He left the thought hanging but I got it. I understood what he was trying to tell me.

I wanted to hug him! I was so proud! I totally missed that way of thinking because rarely do I find men who regard a woman’s heart, precious. He was willing to take his time so he can set things straight within himself first before letting this girl enter the picture. Wow. I sure hope that love and the right moment will come to him and the girl. They deserve it. :)

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