The Opening Gambit
gam‧bit /ˈgæmbɪt/ [gam-bit] n.
1. Chess. an opening in which a player seeks to obtain some advantage by sacrificing a pawn or piece.
2. any maneuver by which one seeks to gain an advantage.
3. a remark made to open or redirect a conversation.
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- For The Ladies. When approached, how important is the guy’s opening gambit to you?
For me, opening gambits set the tone on what kind of conversation I’d be engaging in with the guy so it’s somewhat important. Oftentimes, I can tell what his intentions are. Well, that and what his body language tells me.
- For The Men. Just how much effort do you put into your opening gambit?
For some, I’m sure striking up a conversation with a girl isn’t that hard. But to others, it’s one of the hurdles they have to overcome. Please — let us know what you think.
What really brought this on was a little something that recently happened…
I had dinner with friends earlier and a guy friend took notice of the hostess, who, I have to admit, was quite attractive. Dinner came and went. We were only left to talk about the incident long after we’ve left the resto — yea, his game wasn’t that tight he didn’t consider “hitting on her” cuz he’s with other *aherm* hot ladies and had every intention of coming back to finish the job. Heehee. For now, he’s only left with a memory of a really cute girl named Rhea. Heeheehee.
The subject of “how to approach a girl you’re attracted to” came up. And, of course, I only had a few suggestions to throw his direction. As an example, I told him not to use some cheesy intro or to reference some past encounter, i.e. “Hi, miss. Remember me? I had dinner here last night with friends…” My reasoning was that there’ll be an opportunity to let her know that bit ot info when he does get her to go out with him even just for coffee at least. Anyway, I opted that he’d try to direct a witty remark her way, hopefully, something that can make her laugh.
But that’s just me. Now, I’m thinking perhaps you guys can help my friend out and suggest a good one he can work on.
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Dating Dames » Clubbing As A Mating Ritual
Sep 21, 2006 at 3:59 pm
[...] Going back to the modern times, the caves are replaced with “nightclubs” and has become the primary venue to take out the “clubs” and work on “clubbing” aka “the game”, i.e. pick-up lines, opening gambits, flirting techniques. The only difference is the possibility of necrophilia has decreased [hasn’t it? Sure, hope so.]. [...]
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