The Backup Babe
I’ve taken interest in observing a close friend recently. Almost every weekend she becomes anxious in anticipation that she’ll get that phone call from this guy she’s been dating — the call rarely comes and when it does, it’s obvious it’s a last minute decision on his part.
From the outside looking in, it’s more then obvious that she’s the Backup Babe! By that I mean she’s the one he will call when he can’t score tickets to a game with his buds, when his hunter friends are hanging up their bows for the weekend or when, I dare say, someone better hasn’t come along.
When I was knee deep in the dating scene, I had several rules I adhered to, regardless of how boring my weekend might be for sticking to them, but one of those rules was — If he wasn’t considerate enough to make plans by Wednesday, I would make plans without him. I didn’t care if those plans meant staying in, watching old movie classics and doing a three hour conditioning treatment on my hair - I HAD Other Plans!
Am I the only one that’s old-fashioned enough to think that plans for the weekend should be made in advance?
What are your thoughts on planning a date? Ever felt like the backup babe and if so, what did you do about it?
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Jennifer
Feb 28, 2007 at 12:19 pm
Hey Gayla. We just posted a full, yet inverse, post on our blog yesterday. We had a guy asking a similar question.
Our thoughts on this are simple. If you find yourself in this situation, it’s time to move on. There’s no reason to be in a relationship that’s anything less than 2-way - meaning that he’s as crazy about you as you are about him.
Gayla McCord
Feb 28, 2007 at 12:31 pm
Jennifer ~ Thanks for commenting. I dropped a comment on your blog as well.
Perhaps you and Dan can shed a little light on this topic from the female perspective.
I think this is one of those areas where we get into stereotypes and women often feel their place is to ‘wait’ for the man to call the shots.
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