Sweet Talk, It Helps
Men are strong, abled individuals. Masculinity is expressed in strength, firmness and superiority. There are times when men will come off as brutes and unfeeling. This may be due to their respective upbringing, i.e. “boys don’t cry” mentality.
However, there are men who need not resort to rudeness or callous behaviours to be called men. They see no need to break necks or be serial monogomists to exercise their manhood. They respect women; are gentlemen; know things such as honour and chivalry.
In and around relationships, whether platonic or romantic, men will find themselves in a situation wherein they have to balance their masculinity in dealing with women. Perhaps asking the question, “what should a man do or say in this given situation?” Or “should I give in and be seen a wuss or hold my ground since I am the man?”
I’d like to focus on a simple example, communicating with women — partner or friend.
Some men fail in this aspect in relationships. They often liken women to how men think. They, sometimes, expect women to see things and situations the way they do. They would neglect in altering their manner of addressing these women, which may cause significant damage to the relationship. Esp when the man is dating or in a relationship with that woman. Women friends have a higher tolerance for any failure to communicate properly. The former can easily be disappointed and, oftentimes, offended and hurt. Though, this is not saying that the woman is weak and easily dissuaded; the damage, irrepairable.
The manner in how a man communicates with his partner matters a great deal. Pitch, tone, and choice of words should be considered. Again, I’m not saying that this gives you license to lie or deceive. I’m merely pointing out that a man should be respectful and polite in communicating. His partner is not a slave that you can order around or malign. And even women friends aren’t like your mates whom you can dish out crude jokes or mercilessly jeer.
If we talk about couple arguments, it’s quite understandable that frustration and anger can also be felt by men, which can trigger offending manners in communicating. But we all know that we ought not to act on our anger, right? Cuz, more often than not, we end up doing something foolish, which we’ll soon regret.
My personal advise to men: “sweet talk” them women. Be the better man all the time. Use a more mellower tone. Be the rational voice in arguments. Soothe her worries with comforting and securing words (again, this is not an excuse to lie and deceive). Be polite. Be a gentleman. Let the women be the emotional creatures that they are and accept that. Treat them as you would treat your own mother or sister.
This doesn’t mean you’re a lesser man after it’s all over. It doesn’t signify that you’ve lost your masculinity. And it doesn’t mean you’re a wimp that women can easily manipulate. If you truly understand what I’m trying to say about this topic, then you’ll know that I’m simply trying to let you know that this “advise” is meant to better your communication skills.
Did I make sense?
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