Oh no… Am I a “Cougar”?
This is kind of freaky to me, but it seems like all the guys who are interested in me over at PoF happen to be in their mid-20’s.
It’s kind of a role reversal for me, because ever since I was 15, I was always into older guys. Of course, we can see how well that worked out for me, but still…
Honestly, I got a message from a 21 year old kid about two weeks ago that left me absolutely floored. He was a little nervous (so it seemed at first) to suggest we communicate, but then proceeded to tell me that his ex was even older than I am, and he prefers older women because we know what we want… yadda blah pthbbt. Turned out after I got chatting with him that it seemed more like he was really after a “more experienced in the sack” woman to jump into said sack with.
In the past week or so, I’ve either messaged, talked with, or gone out with guys who are 5 or more years younger than me! It’s got me wondering, because I keep talking to my friends and they’re all for it.
“Go on, girl! Get you a younger man!”
“Young boys wanna please you, and you deserve that for once. Go’head!”
“Men in their mid-late 30’s and early 40’s have baggage and issues and will take them out on you.” (That one has been PROVEN to me quite recently!)
So at 31 years of age, as a woman who still wants a family of her own, am I limiting myself unjustly by keeping my searches limited to guys 28-38? Should I be more open about who I’m willing to give a shot to? Or does that make me some kind of cradle-robbing cougar? What do you think are the chances that a 31 year old woman and a 24 year old man could get together, connect, fall in love, get married, and make babies? Aren’t young guys still “playing the field”?
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4 opinions for Oh no… Am I a “Cougar”?
Michelle Smith
Sep 2, 2008 at 12:05 pm
Unfortunately, everyone has their issues, even the young guys.
I was just talking to my boyfriend and he told me about a couple of clients who are 47 (her) and 40 (him) and they married, have kids, and a business together. For twenty years, he says.
That guy who is 24, he’s not always going to be 24 - that’s the same age difference as Steve’s clients. The guy who is 21, he sounds like he’s looking for something quite different from what you are looking for. I think he’s looking for sex and bragging rights.
Lara Kulpa
Sep 2, 2008 at 1:55 pm
I agree, Michelle… and the 21 year old can go find that at a bar and leave me the hell alone. LOL
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kelly Talla
Sep 10, 2008 at 9:49 am
I think that you should be open to anyone. yeah we see younger women with realllly older guys, but I’m some of them actually are in love with the man. You have to be realistic if you want a family and such, but there are younger guys looking for families as well! If you want some more tips on age ranges in dating, try [url removed - please stop posting it in EVERY comment, Kelly - Lara] forum, there’s some advice articles that I’ve found very helpful. When it comes to loves, you should be open to everyone. You never know!
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