Mom dating daughter’s ex-lover upsets family
In today’s letter to Dear Abby, a mother has presented a problem that she’s hoping to get some advice on.
Here’s the letter:
Dear Abby: My daughter’s former lover, “Beau,” is my age. (She is 20 years younger.) She was married when she and Beau had their affair, and still is. She regretted the affair, but continues to keep him as a friend. She introduced us a few years ago.
As their affair dwindled to a friendship, Beau and I began to have an interest in each other. As I started to see him in a different light, my family got upset.
Are they overreacting, or is this so strange that I should stop the relationship? It does creep me out a bit, but Beau is such fun to be with that I don’t dwell on the past. Would it be extremely weird to date your daughter’s ex-lover? Your thoughts, please.
Having a Ball Down South
Is it really THAT difficult to see WHY anyone in the family would be upset?
Talk about the discomfort this would cause over Thanksgiving and Christmas?
I’m sorry, but I canNOT imagine dating someone that had been involved with and slept with a close personal friend, let alone a family member.
If this mother were standing in front of you at this very moment, what would YOU say to her?
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4 opinions for Mom dating daughter’s ex-lover upsets family
Rico
Jul 25, 2007 at 6:30 pm
Hmmm…
“You know it’s weird, but you’re sent the letter to Dear Abby because you want to seek validation for your relationship.”
“When you say your ‘family got upset,’ does this include your daughter? Ultimately, what you should do depends on her reaction.”
Gayla McCord
Jul 27, 2007 at 6:05 am
I thought the same thing. When a person knows what they are doing is wrong, they purposely seek out someone, anyone that will give validation and credibility to the poor lack of judgment and decisions they’ve made.
Barbara
Jul 28, 2007 at 12:33 pm
I’d say “what the hell is wrong with you?” Do you care more about having this dude as your lover or about your daughter. Sounds like this family has a few issues and this guy is bad news. What does it say about him having an affair with a girl 20 years younger than him and then putting the moves on her mom? YUK!
Donna
Jul 29, 2007 at 2:56 am
What does your daughter think? It’s down to her reaction really. Otherwise, why should there be a problem.
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