“Just Friends”
I’m noticing that it’s becoming quite popular these days [well -- at least, in my country] that some individuals who are non-couples say that they’re “just friends” even when it’s just pure crap. I mean, who are you kidding? Why be a hypocrite and say “we’re just friends” when in reality you both like each other to the point that both of you spend that much quality time with each other that everyone else may consider it anything but platonic. Heh.
I think it’s silly.
I’m sure there are a lot of reasons you can throw at me why you’re guilty of such practice. But let me tell you this, “technicality” will not erase the fact that you are going out with the guy. So, yea. Like it or not, if you agree to spend time with the guy, especially when you have knowledge of the intentions since you guys talk about them, you are already dating him.
I am not saying you guys aren’t friends. I just want you to know that you are more than just friends. Why is it important that you know? So you can level your expectations and yes, be responsible for the person’s feelings as well as your own. There’s no middle ground. It’s not fair for either of you.
Tell me, if this friendship that you have with the guy doesn’t evolve into a relationship, will either of you be able to walk away with your heart still intact and without tears?
Think about it.
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2 opinions for “Just Friends”
Van
May 30, 2006 at 10:28 am
It is silly, but I guess these people either don’t want to admit what everyone else knows or they are still trying to keep it private….but that is a big whatever when it is obvious.
Sasha Manuel
May 30, 2006 at 2:04 pm
In the society that I’m in right now, if someone comes up to me and tells me his or her story that’s quite similar to the scenario that I’ve painted in my post, that matter will no longer be as private as it once was. What I’ve said in the post is just an attempt to educate women or men, if it applies, who are living in the same society because it does matter — at least for the sake of her or his integrity.
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