Is John Mayer A Cad?
By now, the headlines announcing that John Mayer and Jennifer Aniston have broken up is probably old news to you.
I’m a fan of both Aniston and Mayer. Okay, to be honest, I’m a big John Mayer fan. I think he’s talented and attractive and funny and smart. I love his music. “Dreaming With A Broken Heart” is one of my all-time favorite songs.
I saw photos of the two of them online and on the magazine covers that I stare at as I wait in line at the supermarket. News of Johniston, or Johnifer or whatever they have been dubbed, it’s everywhere - pictures, speculation, everything that usually constitutes a celebrity match-up information frenzy.
Mayer appears to be a serial monogamist. He dates one lovely lady for a period of time, then moves on to the next. He dates this new lady for a period of time and then, again, he moves on. This is his dating past, as portrayed by the media and well, by his actual dating history. He has a reputation as being a bit of a heartbreaker. US Magazine named him one of their top “cads” of the year. Why? Is it wrong for a man to date a variety of women? Is he supposed to marry every female he dates? Jennifer Anniston has dated a few men since the end of her marriage. Does she have the same reputation? Should she?
I can’t imagine how hard it must be to be a celebrity and single. Everything is so public and played out for the masses. A couple of celebrities meet, then we hear that they are secretly dating, followed by openly dating, then there’s the rumor of a wedding or a “baby bump.” And it all plays out on this super speeded up timetable, accompanied by the requisite paparazzi photos.
In the “real” world, don’t we advise our friends to take their time, don’t we try to take our time, as well? Isn’t it important to be sure of your choice? I can’t imagine the names I would be called, if I was famous and my dating history got out. Especially my 20s - oh my, that would not be good.
Why are celebrities expected to do things any differently than anyone else? They are entertainers and they are frequently pretty to look at, to listen to, to watch, whatever. Why should we, or anyone else, feel that we have a right to judge their private lives and the personal decisions that they make? When my brother-in-law visits, I read the magazines he buys, but not with an eye for judgement. If I read that a publication has named my favorite singer (okay, one of my favorites, I have a thing for Dave Grohl, too) a cad, the only thing going through my mind is “give me a break.”
It is my hope that both Mayer and Aniston enjoyed the time that they spent together and that they continue to date as many people as they feel it is necessary to date, until they find The One.
What do you think? Am I judging the media or the other judgers too harshly?
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