Is it wrong to stay in a relationship just for the great sex?
Have you found yourself in a relationship where the two of you have very little in common but you keep going back because the sex is so incredibly intense?
In this type of relationship, the primary bond of the couple is sex and is generally just sex, devoid of love. Similar to infatuation, sexually attached couples experience high levels of passion, with low levels of intimacy and emotion.
With that in mind, I ask you “Is it wrong to stay in a relationship with someone just for great sex?”
Feel free to share your response (anonymous is fine if you prefer) in the comments section of this post.
My response after the cut…
I believe everyone finds themselves at degrees of readiness for relationships. Some not so ready, some very ready to settle down with one person and at varied degrees in between.
When a couple are both at the same place, even if it is at a place where they don’t want emotional intimacy or attachment, but want great sex, that’s all fine and good. However, it can certainly be difficult if both parties are not completely honest with one another or with themselves.
There’s nothing wrong with a couple (adult and concenting of course) enjoying each others company and with wanting to be physically stimulated. As humans, we all have certain needs that need a little attention from time to time, right? However, in a relationship that’s based entirely on sex and lacks an emotional connection of any kind can surely anticipate conflict in the future.
Now, what are your thoughts?
Tags: relationships, sex, great sex, friends with benefits, no strings, casual relationship
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5 opinions for Is it wrong to stay in a relationship just for the great sex?
rather not say
Jan 11, 2008 at 1:46 pm
I happen to find myself in one of these relationships at the moment. It started out that way anyway. Neither of us was ready to go beyond that - I’ve gotten beyond it but my partner hasn’t and that’s left me feeling somewhat frustrated that things are not progressing after 18 months. Oh well, I knew what I was getting myself into right!
PS you didn’t allow for anonymous posting!
Gayla McCord
Jan 14, 2008 at 10:26 am
To complete an anonymous posting, all you have to do is fill in fictitious name and leave the url blank. Email addresses are NEVER published or shared.
Single Black Male
Jan 17, 2008 at 10:39 pm
I think its not an ideal situation, but its a reality. I do think that after 18 months though, you need to say something.
Single Life (fill in the blank)
May 20, 2008 at 6:12 am
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Joe
Jun 30, 2008 at 8:49 am
In my experience it is definitely asking for trouble to be in a relationship thats based on sex. There is no way to keep feelings and emotions out of the loop when you are involved in a physical relationship. Sooner or later someone is going to want more than just sex and because of the sex is going to feel entitled to having more on some level. I’ve never been in or have heard of a relationship that’s based on sex working out in the long term. And I doubt I ever will.
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