Importance of Communication
In a relationship, whether if you’ve been in it for a long time now or you’re just starting, what really glues it together is the kind of communication that the two of you have.
Of course, I’ve got to admit that it can take a certain amount of time before you guys set a pace and be comfortable with each other but the thought of “establishing” it is there. The two of you are just simply working on it.
There are certain considerations you have to bear in mind, i.e. time, method, manner, material, etc. It’s not as stuck up as it sounds cuz conversing with your girlfriend or boyfriend can be serious or casual. It doesn’t really have to be a discussion ALL the time.
One thing I’ve learned is that you have to put into consideration the welfare of the person you’re talking to. Think about his or her feelings when he or she receives your message. I’ve got to admit that there are moments that you’re so caught up with *your* own world that you come off as self-centered and crass especially when the topic being discussed is an emotional one.
My thoughts on this matter are: one, to take a moment to think things through before saying anything; two, always say what you mean or be straight-forward; three, always keep an open mind; and four, talking things through will help solve any problem.
What about you guys? How important is communication is to your relationship? Can you share what kind of communication style worked for you?
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4 opinions for Importance of Communication
Shonnie
Oct 26, 2006 at 8:53 am
You’ve shared some great thoughts Sasha. I think your advice to be considerate of the “welfare of the person you’re talking to” is crucial to sustaining a healthy committed relationship. One frequently overlooked area of communication is listening (most classes focus on speaking, assertiveness, etc. rather than how to effectively hear and understand others). We’re hosting a free teleclass on Nov. 15 that other readers might want to attend if they want to learn how to listen effectively to their dates and mates. Details about the class can be found via this link, Listening for Love: Effective Listening for Couples or our events webpage — http://marriagevowworkbook.com/events.htm. Peace.
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Oct 28, 2006 at 6:14 am
[...] I guess this brings us to the issue of proper communication between two people in the relationship. If one refuses to ask a question just because of a certain fear, then both will remain in the dark. [...]
Sasha Manuel
Nov 1, 2006 at 2:37 am
Shonnie: I hope that will help get rid of those people who likes to interrupt in conversations, thinking that what they have to say is more important that what you’re currently saying. Heehee. ;)
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Dec 13, 2006 at 12:42 pm
[...] Communicate. I’ve said it before. Communication between two people is important. You have to find a way to establish the right manner of talking to each other. Is it vital that you guys talk in person? Is talking on the phone enough? Or perhaps it’s better if the two of you resort to writing your feelings down on parchment or email? [...]
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