Holiday Dilemma
For unmarried couples — particularly ones who are in the dating stage — I’m finding that it’s a bit of a problem when it’s time to celebrate the Holidays. Both of you want to spend the day with your families AND spend it together, too.
In my current situation, like most single individuals here in my country, we still live with our parents. I’m also obligated to spend Christmas Eve, Christmas Day, New Year’s Eve and New Year’s Day with them apart from simply wanting to spend it with them, know what I mean? However, I also want to spend these days with the guy I’m seeing. What makes things worse is when you don’t really have anything planned with your family. You’re simply sitting at home, waiting for the day to pass so you’d be free to do whatever you please. Yes, there are homes wherein there are no parties nor any sort of festivities going on.
It’s only this time around have I felt the need to really plan my holiday. Schedule times wherein you’d get to spend ample time with your family and with your partner’s — separately. I still encountered hitches but I reckon it’s a way for me to learn. And this is something my family has to adjust to. It would’ve been different had I been already married. But I’m not, so, I deal. A bit awkward but I just want to have fun during the holidays, too!
What about you guys? Do you suffer the same dilemma as I do? How do you spend your holidays?
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2 opinions for Holiday Dilemma
HotTamales!
Dec 25, 2007 at 1:49 pm
Kris: Yes, my Fiancee and I get into that situation. We figured out a compromise to try and work things more smoothly. I spend the first half with my family, then the second half with her family. This has been the best possible work around. I know it sounds simple and if your family is strict it may not be possible but it’s a thought. Anywho, check out my blog and if you like it add it to your blogroll, also let me know if you do so I can add you too!
Single Black Male
Dec 26, 2007 at 9:11 am
Luckily at my age and here most people are living out of the house. I always go to my family for Christmas Dinner, and I could bring a date if I desired, but I wouldn’t subject someone I liked to that anytime soon. Personally, I they can come to my family, I can go to theirs, or I can leave early and meet up.
New Years is definitely every man for themselves in my family, so no pre-set plans there.
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