Eat, Woman!
Guys love women who love to eat. Why? Eating is one of the sexiest things to do. How is that possible when all you can associate with eating is that extra pound or that expanding waistline? Ha. Think again.
“A woman with a healthy appetite for food tends to have a healthy appetite on all levels, and sex is absolutely a part of that.” — Barton Goldsmith, Ph.D., author of Emotional Fitness for Couples: 10 Minutes a Day to a Better Relationship
Carnal instincts, sweetie. Men see that. Not because they’re responding to a subconscious sex signal, even if they do in some way, but they see how comfortable you are with your own body. It clearly demonstrates that you love yourself and you are mostly uninhibited in most areas of your life, including sex, so it spells, F-U-N.
So quit starving yourself! Throw out that misconception that skinny is beautiful! Believe me, what I would do for an extra 10 lbs.!
However, I’m only speaking in theory, basing it on readings and observations. But it makes sense, right? I wonder how men will react to this observation.
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13 opinions for Eat, Woman!
Ashley
Jul 8, 2006 at 4:29 pm
I enjoy this article very much. I definitely have an appetite for love, sex and food! However, I am constantly at war with myself when it comes to food. I try to eat a very healthful diet, excersize like crazy and enjoy life at the same time. The only problem is that I have an oral fixation problem. I love to put things in my mouth, for example… cookies, or anything else that brings me pleasure. This article makes me feel better about eating in general. Whether or not I have a good day definitely depends upon how much I can discipline myself through not eating… and if necessary, then it boils down to what I eat. I recently started seeing someone who enjoys a woman with some meat on her bones. It’s difficult for me to accept, but I am taking baby steps and enjoying it for all it’s worth.
Matt
Jul 8, 2006 at 5:41 pm
I think Basic Instinct did a lot for the eating is sexy thing! (or whichever film it was with the strawberries on the belly on the kitchen floor).
But I concur… a woman who stays in shape AND can put away the food is a good thing. It’s quite frustrating to go out for a romantic meal at a nice restaurant, when all she wants is a salad.
Sasha Manuel
Jul 10, 2006 at 3:20 am
Thanks, Ashley! I’m glad to hear about that man! It may take some time to get used to but I’m sure it’s worth the risk. You’re right, go enjoy!
Matt, I don’t think I saw that film but you made me think of Top Gun.
Good to hear a man’s voice on the matter and to top it off, you agree. :)
But I’d like to know why it’s frustrating for you. That is, if you don’t mind me asking. :)
Matt
Jul 10, 2006 at 6:31 am
Hmm, frustrating is perhaps the wrong word, but I’ll try to explain. The mood of a romantic evening is dependent on lots of things… getting dressed up all smart, getting to the restaurant maybe a few drinks before hand, reading the menu, ordering some wine, the chatting, laughing, smiling etc. Part of the experience is the menu and thinking about what you’ll eat… maybe try something new, or a bit different. You really want the other person to relax and enjoy themselves, which is they’re worrying about their intake, they’re probably not doing. It’s an interesting paradox really… on the one hand a man like a woman who takes pride in her appearance and their figure etc… but on the other, they don’t really want to “know” how they do it or that it takes any special effort (even though in most cases it does).
(Of course the other thing is when you order something really nice, she’s just got her plate and then spends the whole meal “trying” your food :p).
One of the best dates I’ve had was when I took a girl to a local tapas bar. It was a nice place, big leather sofas, lowish tables and the food is “finger food” - it’s not like a set course thing… you’re supposed to “graze”. So we just ordered a bunch of different little dishes off the menu and nibbled at what we wanted. It was a real ice breaker sorta thing.
Hmm, I’m talking rubbish. I think there’s a point/explanation in there somewhere. :)
Sasha Manuel
Jul 10, 2006 at 12:04 pm
No, it’s not rubbish at all. It’s apparent that you enjoy talking about it. Hahaha.
From what I’ve read, my understanding is you prefer women who loves to eat but doesn’t over eat so she can maintain the figure that’s ideal for you [without limiting it to weight or vital stats]. She also has to be adventurous enough to enjoy any kind of food.
But what I’m curious about is why guys like women this way. Care to take a shot on a theory?
Matt
Jul 10, 2006 at 12:33 pm
It’s difficult to generalise for all guys! Different guys like different things… so without getting too personal… ;)
Ashley
Jul 10, 2006 at 3:26 pm
I wonder if the qualities that are attractive to Matt or any other person, including myself have more to do with stereotyping. I typically stereotype people who are overweight as lazy. SO maybe culture has influenced my perspective on what I am suppose to find attractive… Someone who is active, productive, goal oriented, etc. since it’s qualities that are admirable… in the sense that it’s just easier to sit on the couch and eat bon bons as opposed to working out and eating tuna fish out of a can. I think there’s something about a disciplined person that is admirable and respectful.
Sasha Manuel
Jul 11, 2006 at 3:16 am
That’s what I was striving for, Matt, to get a personal opinion about the topic at hand and not really to come up with a generalisation but if it’s too personal then I guess I have to respect that. :)
That’s why I wanted to ask Matt about it, Ashley. As much as I want to agree with the “stereotype” theory, I know it differs for person to person really. But it does makes sense to me, what you said. It does reflect your character a bit, huh?
Matt
Jul 11, 2006 at 6:52 am
I actually agree with Ashley in many respects. But I wouldn’t call go so far as to say it’s to do with stereotypes… the simple answer is that different people like different things. Some guys like er, “fuller” women, some like skinny, some like, blonde, brunette etc. Why do we like them? Well that’s a whole other debate, isn’t it. I see what Ashley means though in terms of the stereotype idea… it would be natural to assume that women who are in shape are so as a result of exercising and eating correctly, likewise with larger women, some people would assume it’s because they eat too much and need to do more exercise. That’s the stereotype. But of course it’s never that simple - I know loads of girls who can eat whatever they want, loads of junk food, do no exercise and are very slim. Likewise, some women don’t eat very much at all and are still big. In the word’s of Cartman, some people aren’t fat, they’re just bigboned.
What does all that mean? I’m not sure. But I like slim girls who don’t mind eating! One facet though I think is that perhaps the girl is generally on a diet, but for one evening she’s prepared to let it slip in order to have a nice meal. And then maybe work a bit harder on the diet the next day. I don’t know, I’m just musing.
It’s so complicated! I think part of it comes back to what I said originally… is that a lot of guys like women who look a certain way (whatever that way is) but they don’t want to know that it takes loads of hard work to achieve it (though in many respects, working hard to achieve a look is a very admirable/sexy quality) - all I mean is, is there’s something about natural beauty.
Ashley
Jul 11, 2006 at 3:30 pm
I guess I worded that wrong… I definitely enjoy the insight on what you think.
So then, why do you think so many men are attracted to blonde hair girls that are tiny?!?! Is it more of a cultural thing?
Matt
Jul 11, 2006 at 4:12 pm
Because there’s a lot of shallow, small-minded idiots out there? :p
Sasha Manuel
Jul 12, 2006 at 5:44 am
Hahahaha. I can’t say it’s true but I don’t think all skinny blondes are bad and guys who simply can’t resist the pull of the “angelic” look shouldn’t be automatically castrated. We don’t have blondes — uh, real blondes, anyway — here in my country. All have black or dark brown hair but act as if they’re “blondes” so that’s another stereotype we can’t peg down. We have to agree that it’s not the hair colour, right?
And Matt, how is it complicated? We’re just wondering why put so much weight on weight? [Pardon the pun. Hehehe.]
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