Dating Practice: Privacy and Personal Space Issue
I’m not talking about outright intrusion on sensitive personal facts about yourself. What I’m referring to are limitations you set during those initial stages of dating. Do you even set limitations at all?
I’m not sure if you’ve encountered the concept of applying “rules” in your dating life. An example for that would be something I’ve heard (not verifiable, though) done which is that a girl would not accept dates after Wednesday or something like “let’s go out tomorrow night” sort of invite.
Well, in my country, dates are becoming quite common but it’s interspersed with the traditional courtship practices. But for the more liberal, they do go on Westernised dates even with new acquaintances. Some apply certain limitations, either the snag the guy or more importantly to protect themselves from predators.
Personally, during my more active dating life, I applied one important rule regarding personal space, and guard my privacy. Because I don’t always go out with people I *really* know, some are practically strangers sometimes so I make it a point that I do these things. One is to never give out my landline or home phone number. I just give the guy my mobile number. Reason behind this is to protect myself just in case the guy turns out to be a stalker. I can easily change numbers and drop out of his radar.
Another is to never ask him to pick me up or drive me home. I always bring my own car and agree to have the date at a *non-threatening* place like a coffee shop or a nice restaurant in a somewhat popular place (none of those quaint little shop located in god-knows-where type of places). Reason is I can easily ditch the guy just in case he turns out to be finger-sucking loony.
I reckon it’s better to be safe than sorry. Even when I try to be open about dating, I’m still a woman who can be over-powered by a man. Though I’m truly interested in the guy, I still have to be wise about it. Romance can come later on.
What about you guys? What sort of rules do you apply in your dating life? Is personal space and privacy a big thing for you?
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1 opinion for Dating Practice: Privacy and Personal Space Issue
William Henry Young
Nov 15, 2007 at 12:18 am
Maybe I am confused. I can not remember having these thoughts about dating. IMHO, a date is more chemistry than logistics. I, like most ‘Joes’ can tell in the first 90 seconds if this is waste of her time and his.
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