“Cool Off” Is there such a thing?
In my country, there are individuals and/or couples who practice this sort of arrangement. Let me give you a brief definition:
Cool Off - a state in the relationship wherein it resembles a break up. The couple will drop communication while they sort things out on their own. This usually happens over a period of time set either by one or both.
Personally, I find it silly. I don’t believe that it’s fair. It only serves for the convenience of the person requesting it. Wanting to keep the relationship “just in case” he or she realises that they want to continue with it after all. It’s like having the cake and eating it, too. Heh.
I know there are situations wherein the couple needs some time off from each other. However, the couple should reach a decision whether they want to “work things out” and not “let’s see if we can when the cool off period is over”. I reckon both should be able to determine what they need to think about during the “time off” and I just think that, sometimes, a partner should give some form of reassurance that problems can be solved together instead of on their own. Otherwise, what is the use that either of them be in a relationship in the first place?
Anyway, your thoughts would be greatly appreciated. Let’s talk.
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2 opinions for “Cool Off” Is there such a thing?
Aileen
Jun 22, 2007 at 10:05 am
Nah, never believed in “cool off”. When my ex-fiance and I decided to cool off… I didn’t go back anymore.
Gloria
Jun 22, 2007 at 10:01 pm
there is NO such thing as a cool off. that’s just breaking the break up gently.
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