CLUE 9. What Does Distance Do?
Infatuation: absence makes the heart grow fonder - of somebody else!
In infatuation Sue and Sam have been interested mainly in each other’s physical equipment. That is, what they can see, hear, smell, taste or touch about each other. Such interest is hard to sustain when a thousand miles are separating the couple. Since only a few things attract them to each other, the roots of the relationship are thin. It won’t last long unless it gets nourished by a lot of face-to-face contact.
After the infatuated couple is apart for a few days or weeks, they begin to lose interest. After a while the physical equipment of some more available person begins to look good to them. So if it is infatuation, it will die with distance.
Real Love: survives separation. It may even, as the old addage states, make the heart grow fonder. Why? Because love is rooted in attraction to the other’s total personality, not just physical appeal. When you are in love, a great many of the tendrils of your personalities tend to grow together, to unite you into loving oneness. When you have to be apart, you are not your whole self.
This being the Internet and with the new trends of meeting and dating through various online mediums, do you think it’s possible that more relationships are enduring distance and are gaining strength?
If you have a story to share of relationships enduring distance or even relationships that have failed because of distance, I’d love to share it with our readers.
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2 opinions for CLUE 9. What Does Distance Do?
Christine(Yuna)
Feb 21, 2006 at 10:23 am
I am a survior and a victim of distance. Yes, the distance helped me and my ex to gain the level of trust and understanding that no physical relationship could do. However, after 5, 6 years of physical separations, we saw the problems of not being together. Eventually, my marriage broke because of the distance. Our lives occured in two different locations and we eventually grew apart.
My life lesson: Yes, real love will survive from distance, but Marriage won’t. If you get married, stick together!!
Gayla McCord
Feb 21, 2006 at 2:07 pm
Sorry to hear that.
Even with all the new ways of bringing partners into your everyday life in spite of distance (i.e. digital cameras, webcam, email, text messaging) there is still no replacement for the immediate gratification a simple hug can supply.
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