5 Resolutions as Half of a Couple
It’ll either be your anniversary or the actual new year. I mean, these are options when you both can come up with resolutions to better your relationship. Wouldn’t be nice to somehow look at your relationship this way? I reckon it’s all part of the work that every relationship entails. This is quite a positive and constructive activity.
I’d like to share 5 of my own resolution as half of a couple in a dating relationship AND being the woman. I reckon there are distinctions to the role, IMHO.
#5 Make definite plans.
I know I shouldn’t be alone in this but, on my own, I should make definite plans, which involves the relationship or can affect it. This is in reference to the things I can control. Accommodating his plans with mine, the relationship and how I live my life. I guess I need to take a closer look at my current lifestyle. I can’t continue living a life as a single. I need to think about my partner, too.
#4 Learn to be more subservient as applicable.
I’m a very assertive person. Control-freak. And having been single for too long have taken its toll, showing signs of rebellion. I need to be independent but not too self-absorbed. I need to listen to what he tells me, which I know is for my own good.
#3 Communicate more, argue less.
I know there will be arguments but I truly believe that a lot of problems can be resolved with purely talking. Or perhaps you won’t even get to have a problem if we were able to communicate properly. I did notice that a lot of our past arguments have been brought about by misunderstandings and unsaid things or unmet expectations.
#2 Find joy even in the mundane.
The need for excitement will always be there. My itching to experience new things can be addressed at times but not all the time. I need to accept that. There will be lull moments, which isn’t necessarily bad. It can be something special, too. Even without the spectacle.
#1 Believe.
One thing he asks of me. Believe in him. I’m mortified to even think that he thinks that I don’t. There are moments of doubt, yes. I’m quite the paranoid person. I’m trying to exercise the trust, though. And I will continue to work on it this coming new year. Believe that he means well. Believe that he can succeed. Believe that I can trust his word.
I know I didn’t have to wait till the new year to do these things but this occasion provided me a reason to write them down and share them to you guys. Let this be a tangible proof of a promise.
What about you guys? Have you thought about your own set of resolutions?
I hope you all had a meaningful 2007 and I wish you all a prosperous and eventful 2008!
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2 opinions for 5 Resolutions as Half of a Couple
Jabali
Jan 1, 2008 at 8:33 am
My only resolution is to have a better year than the fabulous past year.
Sasha Manuel
Jan 4, 2008 at 7:50 pm
Good on you, Jabali! :)
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