10 reasons why men won’t commit
I’m hoping to stir a bit of participation with this entry due to the constantly looming question of just why some people won’t commit.
An interesting article I stumbled on through Rutger’s U - is Why Men Won’t Commit - the article is dated 2002 - but provides a great insight into some of the minds of men.
Certainly there are those women who refuse to commit as well, I used to be one of those. My biggest fear was the fear of a man who wouldn’t fully commit. So it was a real catch 22 of sorts.
Check out the complete article and chime in with your own thoughts on why men won’t commit or why women won’t commit. It’s one of the biggest questions that’s consistantly hanging over the single scene.
Over the course of three years, the National Marriage Project conducted research into the attitudes toward dating, mate selection and marriage among young, unmarried adults. The findings are reported on the results of a national survey of young men and women, ages 20 to 29. While another aspect of the research takes a closer look at a select group of young, heterosexual, not-yet-married men.
As a first step toward understanding male attitudes about marriage and their timing of entry into first marriage, researchers conducted focus group discussions among not-yet-married heterosexual men in four major metropolitan areas: northern New Jersey, Chicago, Washington, D.C., and Houston. The participants, sixty men in all, came from a variety of religious, ethnic and family backgrounds.
These men range in age from 25-33. The majority are employed full-time, with reported annual incomes between $21-$35,000 and above. Most have had some college or hold a baccalaureate degree or better. No one reports ever being married. Three of the men have a child.
This report highlights key findings from this preliminary study. These findings are impressionistic and exploratory but they provide valuable leads for further research into changing male patterns in the timing and commitment to marriage.
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The ten reasons why men won’t commit are:
- 1. They can get sex without marriage more easily than in times past
- 2. They can enjoy the benefits of having a wife by cohabiting rather than marrying
- 3. They want to avoid divorce and its financial risks
- 4. They want to wait until they are older to have children
- 5. They fear that marriage will require too many changes and compromises
- 6. They are waiting for the perfect soul mate and she hasn’t yet appeared
- 7. They face few social pressures to marry
- 8. They are reluctant to marry a woman who already has children
- 9. They want to own a house before they get a wife
- 10. They want to enjoy single life as long as they can
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1 opinion for 10 reasons why men won’t commit
seduction
Jun 23, 2006 at 8:44 am
I think most people in their twenties are waiting to see “someone better” comes along. That’s just natural I guess.
Here in the UK, marriage used to carry significant tax advantages - Now, there are None.
So the message from government is that marriage is not valued - this does have an effect.
I’m getting married myself in two months. This will be my second marriage, and to an extent, I was even more hesitant this time.
I’d rather not go through divorce again, so even though i wanted to marry earlier, I waited an extra few years before asking the question.
Tony
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